I’m sure some of you have seen the #JustGirlyThings memes going around the Interwebs. Here’s a Tumblr blog full of them if not. Not that they are anything life-shattering. Basically, a quick recap for those who may not know – some stock-type photos of 99% white girls doing something “girly” like buying a Pumpkin Spice Latte, with a stereotypical quote like, “Autumn is the best season.” followed by the hashtag #JustGirlyThings. In a nutshell.
Here are some examples…
Well. I have a cat. So, I introduce to you… #JustCatThings featuring Audrey my cat.
Clearly I have too much time on my hands some days…! But, you know, cats. So like, I had to.
Not to be a basic white girl or anything, but I. Love. Fall! Not because of pumpkin spice everything, but because of scarves, gloves, sweaters, boots and all that jazz. Here’s a few of my faves this season…
This is a topic I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. I recently switched jobs and career paths entirely, which I think is always a stressful situation, but it has proved to be challenging for me not only in learning an entirely new role and industry (eegads!) but also in terms of personal growth and emotional maturity.
The ladder to success doesn’t come with an autopilot option. Photo credit: Pixabay
What do I mean by that? I don’t think a lot of us really think about personal growth as it applies to our jobs much – at least I didn’t. But now I am seeing how important it is to success and that, perhaps, this is why I have been unsuccessful at past endeavors. Because of my unwillingness and/or ignorance about how I had to change myself to better fit my workplace, instead of the other way around.
Maybe it’s a generational thing. Us “Millenials” (that’s 80s babies right?) grew up with technology (albeit, dial-up and Windows 98 but…). We grew up being told that college is of vital importance. We grew up with the sense of opportunity, and the sense that we are supposed to follow our passions and do what we love. Well from my informal polling (i.e. Facebook news feed perusal), it seems approximately 80% of people complain about their jobs on a regular basis (myself: guilty, although I try to keep annoying crap like that off Facebook and instead directly into my close friends’ ear canals). Doesn’t sound like most of us are following our passions. Because… here’s a secret… passions don’t pay bills. In most cases. Unless your passion is working on an oil rig.
So sure I like my job. Would I rather be a full-time blogger getting to write about things I love, earning an income, and sipping hot lattes in the comfort of my well-appointed townhouse? Well, yes. Yes I would. Maybe one day! (A blogger can dream!) But the only way to achieve your goals is to work hard at them, but in the meantime – deal with what you gotta deal with. For me, my goal is to grow this blog and meet people from all over the world, and earn a bit of a side income from it (so far not the case!). But the reality is, I need a M-F 9-5 to pay my bills in the meantime. I am not giving up on my goal, but I also need to grow myself at my current job to get ahead in life.
This could be me one day, blogging in the wild. No bosses, no schedule. Wild and free I tell you! Photo credit: Pixabay
At my 9-5, I have recently learned to put others’ needs before my own. Not that I’m selfish, but I was in a workplace sense. In my personal life, I sacrifice for friends, I help family, I care for others. But it didn’t occur to me to bring that same mentality into the workplace. I am used to having jobs where I set my priorities, where I am given a list of things to do/accomplish, and I just do them. This current job has a lot of micro-managing, and when I am pulled away in a different direction than what I think I need to be focusing on, I am expected to drop everything and do that task, to the detriment of others I was working on. For awhile, this made me so frustrated. “Couldn’t they see I was working hard? Couldn’t they see I was working on a project they told me to have done by ___?”
It doesn’t matter. At the end of the day, my boss pays me to do what she says. End of story. It takes a lot of self-control, and sacrifice, to put tasks I don’t view as important at the top of my list when I have competing priorities. But I simply have to tell myself, I am here to do what my boss wants. End of story. If you are struggling in your current job due to something like this, I highly suggest just giving in. It was counterintuitive to me, as a Type A stubborn person, but it works. And it’s amazing how my stress level has fallen as a result.
This seems like a good intersection to live at. Photo credit: Pixabay
Do you have any advice on personal growth in the workplace – or have you realized something about yourself while at work that’s benefitted your personal growth?
I am so excited! We got our engagement photos back from our amazing photographer, Stephanie Steiner! Our session was so fun. At first I was a bit nervous because I’ve never had professional photos taken or anything like that, but Stephanie was great at putting us at ease and directing us. We had such a blast walking around historic Fort Langley with her!
Oh yeah, and I’m wearing my absolute fave pink shoes…!
I have always been a night owl, as long as I can remember. Even if I wanted to go to bed early, my body/brain just wouldn’t allow it. Now that I’m getting older (barf), my body has played an even better trick on me… Even when I go to bed early, I still feel groggy and grumpy in the morning! How fun!
This is probably because I’ve never been a fan of early mornings anyway. I can appreciate those who like to get up early and workout, or enjoy the sunrise, read the paper… I would like to do all of those things too but I just CANNOT. Nope. Too early for me.
I recently changed careers entirely a few weeks ago. I’m so glad I did. I was stuck in something before that wasn’t really me and I was pretending to enjoy. The work itself was not bad, but the environment and culture, so not me. Now, I can do what I’m good at AND be myself. It’s a huge relief to just be able to be yourself at work. After all, it is 8 hours of your day – that’s a long time to be pretending to be someone else! Anyway.
My new job has me up super early so I’ve had to just get up and get er done. The following is a list of products that I find indispensable for me getting my butt out the door on time:
1. Coffee. Obviously.
2. Dry shampoo. Don’t judge me. I have really thick hair so it takes forever to shampoo in the shower and then blow dry. Ain’t got time for that shit anymore. Dry shampoo is where it’s at during the work week for me. I use Batiste dry shampoo and really like it. It smells good too.
3. Picking out my outfits the night before. I don’t have to look like a million bucks for my job, but of course I want to look nice. I have a crazy assortment of patterns and colours in my wardrobe that takes some careful planning to avoid looking like I belong in the circus. Doing this planning the night before saves me both brainpower and time, both of which are in short supply in the morning.
4. My fiance. Okay, barf. But yes, he helps me immensely. He makes my coffee every morning and usually my sandwich for lunch. Without that, I would often go hungry and not get coffee because I am always rushing! He’s a lifesaver (and an early morning riser unlike me).
5. Positivity. It’s easy to get up early for work, even if you hate getting up early, if you actually look forward to going to work. Now that I am heading somewhere that I don’t dread being at, it’s a lot easier to get moving in the morning. Sometimes it’s as simple as either your attitude, or finding a new career path. Or ideally, both.
Are you a morning person, or not? How do you save time in the AM?
I'm Michelle, and I'm a writing addict. I love to catalogue my life and memories here, but you'll also find me talking about fashion and style, makeup and hair, healthy recipes, fitness, and home decor DIY projects - and now, wedding planning! Read more about me...